The rain began to tap the windshield as it had ten years prior, when we first drove away as husband and wife. I remembered the nervousness I felt as we sat in traffic (traffic at 11:00 at night, amazingly), quietly waiting to enter the rest of our lives. At the young age of 22, I really didn’t understand the risk I was taking, only that I was in love with a man whom I wanted to love forever. But, now, as we left our car and ran to take cover from the rain that came down cold on our backs, I realized how brave we were.
Ten years ago, we had decided to enter a union knowing that the odds said we had a 50 percent chance of losing. We risked making the vows anyway, deciding that divorce wasn’t an option for us. We knew that rough patches would come along, and we were committed to loving and working together through those times.
Of course, we didn’t know exactly what those rough times would be or the endurance we would need to keep going. We didn’t know the disappointments along the way or the helplessness we would feel when we didn’t know how to help one another. We didn’t know the strain that three kids would bring to our journey nor the darkness of depression. We didn’t know how tired and empty we could feel.
But we had heard ‘nothing ventured, nothing gained,’ and we risked the ‘I do’s’ anyway. And every day since then, we’ve risked giving a little more than we think we have left, losing a little bit of ourselves as we try to serve each other, forgetting comfort as we do what is right instead of what is easy.
I looked across the table that night at him as we ate risotto and laughed at not being cool enough for our waiter and wondered if it was still raining outside. We let our tired selves relax in our chairs as we pushed aside everything but each other.
I watched him smile across the table at me, and I missed our kids–but not really–and I thought of his braveness, our braveness, and strength. We were tired, but we were enjoying each other too much to leave. And ten years later, knowing the risks but experiencing the gain, I quietly said, ‘I do.’
This post was inspired by Lisa-Jo’s ‘Five Minute Friday’ on risk and, of course, my husband of ten years, Matt. I wanted more than five minutes to think about my words, so I mulled over them this weekend. I love you, Matt, and I look forward to risking the rest of our lives together.
8 thoughts on “Risk”
Happy anniversary! I, too, got married a 22, starry-eyed and clueless. We will be married 12 years this December and I would not go back for the world. We have had our share of heartache and even a year where we came close to calling it quits and becoming a statistic. But God is faithful and each time we have turned to him He has strengthened our marriage. Great tribute.
Thanks, Gaby! Marriage is hard work, but we plan to keep at it! Looking forward to catch up on your blog while I'm on vacation. 🙂
14 years ago today for me, so this is on my heart and mind. What a blessing a godly marriage is!!! Happy anniversary!!!
Happy belated anniversary, Becky! I hope you both had a special day!
I am so glad you took the time to write this priceless gem of a tribute. Thank you, Jennifer – just beautiful.
Thank you, Diana. I wanted to write honestly; it hasn't all bed rainbows and butterflies, but it's all been worth it.
Such a lovely post. And Happy Anniversary to you and Matt. May our sweet Father continue to bless your marriage.
Thank you, Lisa!