Marriage According to a Four-Year-Old

As we were riding along in the van on Sunday afternoon, I lazily closed my eyes and rested my head on my hand.  I wasn’t really comfortable, propping my elbow against the window, but it was the best improvisation for a pillow that I could make.

In the back of the van, Caleb and Hannah Grace were having their own conversation, and I was pleased with the relative quiet for a van filled with five people.  I hadn’t heard what started the conversation that caused me to sit up abruptly, but as I caught that first sentence, I focused my attention on every word that came out of the mouths of the two in the back:

Caleb: “Hannah Grace, you’re going to grow up and marry a boy someday.”

Hannah Grace: “Which one?”

Caleb: “I don’t know.  You’ll just have to pick one, I guess.”

Hannah Grace: “I want to marry Daddy.”

Caleb: “You can’t marry Daddy; he’s already married.”

Hannah Grace: “But I want to marry Daddy!”

And my heart melted.  I’ve heard that all girls want to marry their daddies when they’re young, but when those words came out of my daughter’s mouth, I couldn’t stop the smile that spread across my face.

That is, until my son continued:

Caleb: “You can’t marry Daddy!  He’s already married, and one day you’re going to grow up, and Daddy and Mommy are going to die, so you have to marry somebody else.”


And after that description of marriage, my heart froze back over.

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18 thoughts on “Marriage According to a Four-Year-Old

  1. This is too cute! I just saw your comment about Hudson's birthday party last night…of course, I do not mind at all if you use the ideas or the post…it was a fun party! Love reading your blog and love your way with words…so beautifully eloquent!


    1. Thanks, Becky! Caleb's birthday is in March, so I'm trying to think of ways to adapt your party idea into a Jedi training party. Caleb went to a Star Wars party, and now he's all excited!


    1. They are cute; I just wish I didn't always have to die in their stories. Today, Hannah Grace was pretending, and she said her mother got taken away by a monster. She had to live with her grandma because her mother was dead. Gee whiz.


  2. You never cease to drag my emotions from one end of the spectrum to the other and leave me laughing. I hope this is the story you start one of your chapters with!


  3. Jennifer-this was so cute! I am glad you are doing well and hope you and your family are very blessed this year. I can’t believe how big your kids are getting. I remember you just had Caleb! 🙂


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